“When obstacles arise, you change your direction to reach your goal, you do not change your decision to get there”

I am often guilty of getting discouraged and falling back to a negative state of mind. Instead of problem solving, I take the discouragement and question my path and what I’m pursuing. I let stress consume me and consume my decision-making process. How many times have you set a goal and felt discouraged because of failure? It happens to us all but we all handle it differently, some take it as motivation and some fall into a downward spiral.  It can cause negative thoughts that last for a day, a week, and even a month. Some of us let it spill over into other aspects of our life and make us feel discouraged overall. I can say that at different moments in my life, I have experienced all of these. Here are some things I have learned to help me break this habit

  1. Take a step back from the moment and find a way to reflect on it without any emotions in the way, it helps to go somewhere that brings peace and just sit and think or journal. Sometimes people think that when we are upset, it’s best to stay busy but truly I think that’s incorrect in some instances. We get too caught up in our emotions and need time to sit and freeze and destress and live in the moment. Personally, I like to write things out because I think it resonates more and puts me at peace. Giving yourself time to sit and process and think rationally sometimes will kick the discouragement to the curb. A lot of our feelings of discouragement come from irrational thoughts and when we are busy busy busy, we don’t give ourselves a chance to recognize that our thoughts are not truly the thoughts we should be having. Immediate upset causes us to react in the moment, and how many times have we reacted in the moment to friends, boyfriends, girlfriends, etc. and regretted it a day later? It happens all the time. Before you get too caught up, give yourself a chance to think.
  2. Remind yourself of all the accomplishments you have already made in your life, and how many times you failed but somehow succeeded in the end. We easily forget how many times we have battled back from failure but in the midst of a big discouragement, we think it’s the end of the world and forget the past. Remind yourself of all the accomplishments you have made, big and small. This is proof persistence will get you through the battle.
  3. Remind yourself of everything you’ve worked for and how far you’ve come. It’s easy to lose faith and fall back into a negative place but what makes you even closer to your goal, is learning how to overcome this. It’s one of the hardest things to do I think and takes the most strength. And how sweet will it be to accomplish this and look back at what you overcame. Find what works for you and brings your focus back in these situations and make it a first instinct reaction.